An American in the Family
Me at fruit market: Mangoes and Sweet Sop (custard apple, Viet cherimoya)
There was great anticipation in my arrival to Đà Nẵng because Cousin Diane was bringing home an American! Just ask Little Su Hy (age 3) who had been telling all of her friends there is an American in the family. Almost anywhere you read about Americans traveling to Việt-Nam, you’ll hear of tales of how warmly they are welcomed; the war a long forgotten and forgiven memory. Our trip to Vietnam taught me that this welcoming isn’t merely extended to travelers, but exponentially more so to family add-ons. At least it was for me.
I was greeted with smiles and hugs, and a few looks of happy curiosity. The incredibly cute and feisty Su Hy couldn’t stop staring at me, “the American”, but when prompted to go over & say “Hi” she’d vehemently shake her head “No” as if you’d just asked her to give up her candy. I didn’t feel too bad because she did it to Diane the whole time, too. Within minutes, the family had swallowed me up and made me one of them for our entire stay in Đà Nẵng.
Niece Su Hy staring at me, “The American”. I saw this stare the whole time!
Most of the family doesn’t speak much English, and unfortunately I don’t speak much Vietnamese beyond food, numbers, and “thank you.” Diane translated and explained when needed, but as the week went on, less and less was needed. Jokes were exchanged with a few simple words or gestures, and we all had fun helping each other learn one another’s language. Diane was the incredible teacher helping all of us retrain our mouths to make a decent pronunciation of the foreign words. After a scant 5 minutes of trying to properly pronounce Vietnamese words, my mouth and jaw would be tired and fumbling. It was like having to relearn how to speak all over again. On the English spectrum, we helped them learn the difference between saying “ace” and “eight”, all important pronunciation in a games of cards.
The cousins in particular embedded us into the family. We hopped on the the back of their scooters and explored Đà Nẵng the way only locals can. We played cards and chinese checkers in cafes, some of which were more hip and stylish than anything I’ve seen in the U.S., hit all of the open markets allowing us to find incredible photo opportunities and score a few great buys, and we ate and ate and ate the street foods. Did I mentioned we ate there, a lot?! Bańh xeò (crispy crepes), seafood Nhậu (Viet style tapas w/booze), Râu Cau Dưà (agar dessert with coconut milk), many kilos of Chôm Chôm (rhambutans), Xoaì (mangoes), and other tropical fruits. We even ate green colored oranges. It’d take an novel to cover all the different foods we consumed, so I’ll spare the details (for later posts) and just say that everything was tasty and super fresh.
Game of checkers and iced tea at Katynat Coffee House
Bonding over Vietnamese coffees (café sữa đá, café sữa nóng, café đen, etc…) and cold beer, chatting and joking while cruising on the back of the scooters while we navigated the swarm of Đà Nẵng traffic, trekking into the jungle hoping to avoid leeches and malaria, and eating at some of their favorite places on the sidewalks and in the cafes, it was quick and easy to love my Viet family. I admired their humor, intelligence, and saavvy. They are an incredible clan that I am happy to be one of. – Todd
A much deserved seafood Nhau after the long jungle trek. I was about ready to waive the white surrender flag, can’t you tell? We ate SO MUCH FOOD! This was our third food stop for the evening, and not the last!
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I am enchanted with the photos and stories of your journey. Viet Nam has been the top stop on my must-go list for years….trying desperately to make the time.
I kind of felt the same way when Annie brought me to Malaysia the first time. The family welcomed me with open arms and all the cousins took us around. I was so impressed by their hospitality. It’s such a refreshing difference from the “nuclear family” concept here in America.
Cheesy alert: Reading your entry reminded me of the “Pass the Plate” promos they air every so often on the Disney Channel. It basically shows us how many cultures are brought together through food. 🙂
In Jamaica, we call the custard apple soursop (we also call it custard apple). It’s amazing to me how one fruit can have so many different names in so many different places. In fact, I actually have some soursop sitting next to me. Since it’s somewhat expensive in the US (depending on where you are), I’m trying to resist eating it right away, but I don’t believe I can resist very long–at least not while looking at those pictures (they look absolutely exquisite). And those mangoes! Oh my, do they look delicious. You have just made me very hungry.
By the way, beautiful pictures and I’m so glad you had a wonderful trip! Color me jealous. 😀
MPG – We wished we could have smuggled some back. Ohhhhh the mangoes. Different league than what we are able to get here. And the rhambutans too. At least we are able to get the custard apples of similar quality. The trip was a blast!
So, glad you had a blast…kinda sounds like the time my husband had in India meeting my extended family. Mangoes & Custard Apples both at once?…I am SO jealous right now :-p those are two of my favorite fruits, but I’ve never seen them at the same time, where I grew up you got them in only 2 extreme seasons…did you smuggle some back? 😉 Wow! what a fun trip!!
Christie (fig & cherry) – Ya gotta go! They love all of you crazy Aussies in Vietnam.
sra – The local fruit shops usually translate it to “custard apple” as well. Mighty tasty.
lifeinrecipes – We were in the same situation as you for the longest time. Desperately wanting to go, but unable to free the time and money. I think the years of anticipation added to the excitement. We weren’t disappointed, either.
Colleen – Thanks Mom. Love you too.
matt wright – Don’t be misconstrued. The family is insane. Nearly everyone of them 😉 But in an incredibly good way. I fit right in!
Chez Us – From what I’ve heard, the Portuguese are another passionate, food loving, bunch. The sort that warms the heart and makes you smile. How fun!
Susan @ Sticky, Gooey, Creamy, Chewy – Ditto for the Italians. We loved our trip to Italy (now many years ago) I can only imagine what it would be like to be included in a family there. Mangia! Mangia!
What a wonderful trip! How lovely that you were able to get to know Diane’s family. It looks like you were welcomed with open arms! It reminds me of the first time my husband and I went to visit my father’s family in Italy. Dozens of aunts uncles and cousins that we had never met before treated us like rock stars. After a few days, it was like we had known each other forever!
Your trip sounds amazing! What fantastic photos as well. The meeting of the family sounds like the meeting of a Portuguese family, as well, reminded me of Lenny’s family – lots of fun, food and get stories!
What an awesome, awesome trip. Who wouldn’t welcome you into their family??? They would be insane. Great people are hard to find, but it looks like you have an entire family of them. Good stuff!
We still need more photos.. Come on, spit em out!!!