Cake Pop Bouquet and our 16th Anniversary together

by White on Rice Couple on February 16, 2012

This week, exactly 16 years ago, we met in a itty bitty coffee house. Todd was behind the counter serving espresso’s and Diane walked in thirsty for a mocha. We talked about food, art, camping, motorcycles and gardening. Todd whipped up a mocha and added a rum flavoring to Diane (for free). Diane blushed, loves free stuff, and drank the magic potion and was smitten throughout the evening. 

That’s our love story in a nutshell and sixteen years later, that scene still exists. Every morning Todd is busy steaming espresso and Diane sits patiently thirsty at the barstool. We still talk about the same things and wonder how the past 16 years zipped by so quickly. Maybe it’s twitter. Then we look back at our photo albums and realize, uh, yeah, it’s been that long. 

Baby Pic: Our 3rd date in 1996: Hiking! 

Todd had a head of hair back then and Diane had much less wrinkles and love handles. But we’re still the same people when it comes to what brought us together from the very beginning. 

We always get asked how and what we did to make it this long. That’s always a tough question to answer, but we summed up the best we can about making it this far (not in any particular order). Here is each of our perspectives on what has worked for the two of us:

Diane’s Story

  1. First, let the other person sleep in. Sleep is important and if your partner wakes up cranky cause of lack of sleep, then the other partner is in trouble. Next, Coffee. Really great coffee in the morning helps.
  2. Think of the other person first and put him/her ahead of yourself. Some might call it sacrifice, but I certainly don’t consider it sacrifice in that sense. For me, it’s such a joy to think of what Todd would want to eat today, or what he would make him happy to make. The true joy for me is being able to be a part of what makes him happy doing. 
  3. Be a great listener. Really listen to what your partner has to say, and be understanding to why they are feeling that way or thinking those things. Be empathetic and understanding, yet rational and kind when it’s your turn to talk. Remember that your love has feelings too. 
  4. Make, create and do things together. The most incredible bonding experience can blossom if you make and create things together that you both love. I don’t mean in terms of a business per say, because money can make things complicated and take the fun out of it. Find something fun and beautiful that you both love and do together, often. 
  5. Be a friend, a lover and a trusted confidant. It takes all three to make a relationship work. 

Todd’s Story

  1. Say “Yes.” Even when the idea is insane and seems like nothing but trouble, supporting each others ideas and venturing out of our comfort zones has lead us down some amazing paths. Paths only possible because we supported the other’s crazy ideas.
  2. Fall in love again. As the years pass, it is easy to take each other for granted. Beyond looking at Diane as if we just met, I’ll ask myself what is it I love about her and why. The adorable big eyed, little sips she takes drinking water when super thirsty. The way she tries to pull me out of a funk when I’m cranky. That she plays the same song 50 times a week or that she loves 80′s pop music (I didn’t even like it back then). The feel of the small of her back. That I know when everything else is chaos, I have her to depend on.
  3. Greet each other as if you haven’t seen another for a long time. I think we get this one from having dogs. You can be gone for an hour and they greet us at the door as if it has been weeks. There is nothing better than when one of us walks through the door chirping out “I’m home!” and puppies and people alike stop what they are doing and come up to greet and love.
  4. Love each others good qualities and accept their oddities. The longer you are with someone, the easier it is to be annoyed by them. The fresh romance has worn off and best behavior is put aside. Yours and theirs. But how your perceive their raw character is your choice. Be annoyed by the negative, or bathe in their spirit. You can laugh about their snoring or cringe in frustration.
  5. Forgive your own flaws. This one is hard for me, and something I am still consciously working on. We have long since known that the other is not perfect, and we love each other anyway. I think we love each others character even more for not being “the cat’s meow”. But within ourselves we still get disagreeable over our own personal flaws. Let it go. It is one thing to always try and improve one’s own character, it is another to suffer annoyance or aggravation over not being “as good as you can be.” Accept and love your own flaws. And if you want to change them think of positive ways to do it.  But for yourself and your partner, love yourself so they can love you too.
Hiking in Joshua Tree: 1997 

Cake Pop Celebration! So to celebrate this week, we decided to make cake pops together for the very first time. Angie from Bakerella.com always inspired us with her wonderful cake pop creations and we finally decided to make it together on our special anniversary day. 

But it took us a few tries. The first time was not the prettiest sight because our first batch looked like monster pops. Seriously, we made a mess and it took a few tries to finally get the cake ball to not blop back into the frosting. And when we finally succeeded in pulling out the cake pop still intact on the stick, the hardest part was timing the sprinkles to where they would stick on the frosting! 

Our second attempt looked much better. yay! We don’t have a recipe to share because Angie has it written out so well on her website and we feel it’s best to learn it directly from the master. 

So for the cake pop recipe, head over to Angie’s site. The only difference between her recipe and ours was that we used blue and yellow candy melts. To mellow out the color, we used white candy melts. We used 2 parts white and one part color.  

Have a great weekend everyone! 

Diane and Todd

Last month we shared our Life Recipe Video. Sums up how we feel! 

 

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1 Averie @ Love Veggies and Yoga February 16, 2012 at 10:17 pm

Wow, I am all teary-eyed after reading those stories and bits of wisdom. My hubs and I will be celebrating 11 years of marriage in a month here, and about 12+, of being together. We got married in Vegas for $199 bucks very quickly after meeting, I wore a hot pink dress, everyone said we wouldn’t last. Well, we have a 5 year old and 12 years together to prove we did last :)

I am sooooo happppppy for you two that you have 16 years together. I am always so excited to hear about the relationships that WORK. Congrats you, two! And here’s to many more decades of anniversaries together!

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2 Michelle February 16, 2012 at 11:06 pm

ya’ll are soooooo sweet! you are a true inspiration.

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3 Katie February 16, 2012 at 11:06 pm

What a beautiful post! I love your advice on being together, in particular Diane’s about letting the other sleep in, and Todd’s about greeting each other like you’ve been gone a long time. Lovely insight!

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4 Joy February 16, 2012 at 11:25 pm

aww this is pretty damn sweet. great tips btw (even though i’m only 18 and oh probably never going to get married) ~

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5 Kathryn February 17, 2012 at 1:23 am

Some very wise words from both of you. Happy anniversary, 16 years is really something to be proud of.

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6 Maureen February 17, 2012 at 2:52 am

Awww, what a beautiful post. If more people lived by those guidelines we’d all be happier!

Lovely cake pops.

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7 Magda February 17, 2012 at 3:50 am

Congratulations, Todd and Diane!
I will be celebrating my 16th anniversary with my boyfriend this summer and I totally relate to everything you both are saying.
Here’s to you guys! I wish you many many more years together!

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8 Roberta February 17, 2012 at 4:51 am

That’t sweet, I am very happy fo you guys!
Thanks for your wise words, I perfectly agree with both of you..
Happy anniversary I wish more happy anniversary to come in the future…

Love
Roberta

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9 Phoo-d February 17, 2012 at 5:26 am

Congratulations you guys! You are both such creative and joyous spirits I am happy that you have been growing and loving each other for 16 years! The world is a better place because you two got together. =)

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10 Cooking with Michele February 17, 2012 at 6:20 am

Happy Anniversary! My husband and I actually met (yikes!) 34 years ago this January – the time really does fly!

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11 christyna February 17, 2012 at 7:31 am

Love, love, love this post! Thank you so much for sharing this with all of us! The advice for sticking together is spot on, and I’ll be forwarding this out to many of my friends today, one of which will be my husband :) We have been together about 6 years now, but married about 1.5 years. With kids, work, and all the craziness that life brings, it’s very easy to take one another for granted. So, thank you for reminding me how much my partner is a blessing to me, and how much that partnership should be cherished and nourished daily. Happy anniversary to you guys!!

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12 Brian @ A Thought For Food February 17, 2012 at 7:32 am

A very happy anniversary to the two of you. Such a sweet and loving post… with so many important points about marriage. Mwah!

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13 ravenouscouple February 17, 2012 at 7:34 am

thank you for sharing, and congrats again! Note to self: let Kim sleep in. Totally guilty on that one!

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14 Clare February 17, 2012 at 7:37 am

Happy Anniversary, Todd & Diane! And thank you for sharing your tips for a fulfilling and lasting relationship. I admire you as professional photographers, as bloggers but mostly as people – individually and as a couple. Thank you for being a constant source of inspiration and for being good friends. Big hugs from across the pond! xo

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15 Eileen February 17, 2012 at 7:37 am

Happy Anniversary! A beautiful cake pop bouquet, and sound advise – perfect! So glad I found your blog :)

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16 Carolyn Binder February 17, 2012 at 7:39 am

Happy anniversary, Todd and Diane! XO.

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17 SoupAddict Karen February 17, 2012 at 7:42 am

I love the part about greeting each other with as much as enthusiasm as our furry friends greet us! I have kitties, but they greet me with the same wild, happy abandon as puppies. :)

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18 Cookin' Canuck February 17, 2012 at 7:43 am

This is the type of post that I want to print, laminate and stick on my fridge with a big, happy flower magnet. There are so many heartfelt reminders in here about what it truly means to love someone. I hope the next 16+ years bring you as much joy and strength.

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19 jenjenk February 17, 2012 at 7:44 am

I love you guys!!! You guys are like peanut butter & chocolate – the perfect combination! and thanks for numbers #3 [D] and #4[T]…great advice for being a good friend, family member, or partner!

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20 alison mcquade February 17, 2012 at 7:44 am

happy anniversary – wishing you a wonderful celebration. lovely post.

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21 brandi February 17, 2012 at 7:46 am

happy anniversary! sounds like you guys have figured it all out :) those are great lists

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22 Laura Janelli via Facebook February 17, 2012 at 7:47 am

Happy Anniversary! <3 Chef Laura at Home

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23 Kimberly February 17, 2012 at 7:47 am

Happy Anniversary, Todd and Diane! Wonderful nuggets of advice you’ve shared.

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24 shawnda February 17, 2012 at 7:47 am

Happy 16 years! You guys have such love for life and each other, and such a talent for capturing and expressing it. Totally inspiring.

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25 Sugar Mama Bakeshop February 17, 2012 at 7:48 am

Congratulations! What a sweet love story :) The cake pops are beautiful too!

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26 Katie @ Epicurean Mom February 17, 2012 at 7:52 am

You guys are just the cutest, and of course sweetest! Love your stories! :) And your cake pops look fantastic! Miss you both, hopefully I can see you both in Feb!

xx
Katie

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27 Melissa | Dash of East February 17, 2012 at 7:53 am

You two are just too sweet! Happy Anniversary! And many, many more to come :)

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28 Grishma At ZaikaZabardast via Facebook February 17, 2012 at 7:54 am

You guys are my absolute favorite…loved reading your story!

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29 Anh Rohrbach via Facebook February 17, 2012 at 7:55 am

You both are wonderful,love those 2 pictures…thanks for sharing

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30 EatLiveRun February 17, 2012 at 7:55 am

I absolutely LOVE this post and love you guys even more! (ps–that photo from 1996 is priceless!)

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31 Katrina @ Warm Vanilla Sugar February 17, 2012 at 8:03 am

Aww so pretty!! Congrats! :)

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32 Grishma @ZaikaZabardast February 17, 2012 at 8:07 am

You guys are my absolutely favorite! Loved reading your beautiful story :) Can’t wait to see u at FBF :)
Oh and lovely cake pops!!

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33 TripleScoop February 17, 2012 at 8:12 am

Congrats Todd and Diane on 16 year wonderful years! May the next 100 years be just as blissful.

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34 Colleen Porter via Facebook February 17, 2012 at 8:14 am

Wow, what a wonderful post. I love you too! What great advice for all! <3

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35 Kay Heritage via Facebook February 17, 2012 at 8:16 am

Happy anniversary, Todd & Diane! :)

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36 charlotte au chocolat February 17, 2012 at 8:22 am

Happy anniversary! Thank you for sharing your story and your insights with us. The life recipe video is absolutely beautiful.

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37 LiztheChef February 17, 2012 at 8:26 am

It will be 16 years for Larry and me this November – lucky us! Lovely post, friends.

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38 Bev Weidner February 17, 2012 at 8:42 am

Happy Anniverrrrsarrrrryyyy!

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39 Louise Mellor via Facebook February 17, 2012 at 8:43 am

Happy Anniversary!

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40 Steve-Anna February 17, 2012 at 8:52 am

You two never fail to make me smile~!! Sending lots and lots of love from Tucson in celebration of the two of you finding one another 16 years ago this week!

PS: I’m still smiling ; )

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41 Jennifer February 17, 2012 at 9:00 am

A truly wonderful post. You guys have got it right! And I love the “baby” pictures.
All the best,
from someone who has been married 33 years and is still in love

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42 angelitacarmelita February 17, 2012 at 9:01 am

Thank you both for your open-ness and for sharing your love story with us. I especially love the ‘recipe’ you both wrote for a successful, lasting and loving relationship. Words to live by indeed. Congratulations on your anniversary, and may you love each other as much today, as you did yesterday, and then some. xoxo.

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43 Jessie Kaufman via Facebook February 17, 2012 at 9:04 am

Love your advice. Happy Anniversary!

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44 Anne February 17, 2012 at 10:08 am

The fact that you both are constantly sharing, encouraging and teaching others all of the important lessons you’ve learned in life and career is probably the quality that encompasses everything wonderful about you two. In my mind, this blog is called “White On Rice Couple/How To Pay It Forward” and I’ve gained so much knowledge through you. Congratulations, and thank you.

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45 Becca @ Cook, Rejoice, Repeat February 17, 2012 at 10:08 am

Beautiful advice! Congrats and may you have many more years together!

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46 Ashley February 17, 2012 at 10:11 am

Happy Anniversary! Love the video, the cake pop and the story. So sweet!

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47 Maria February 17, 2012 at 10:14 am

Happy Anniversary! Such a sweet post. I just love you guys!

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48 Joy Vo via Facebook February 17, 2012 at 10:24 am

Your journey together is indeed a Love story worthy of sharing with and inspiring the masses! Happy Anniversary! ps. Love the video!!!

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49 jenny February 17, 2012 at 10:42 am

Too sweet!!! Happy Anniversary!! Cheers to many many more..

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50 Jane February 17, 2012 at 10:51 am

Ahh congrats! I just got married this fall, so thanks for the tips! The cake pops are gorgeous!

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51 Stephanie, The Recipe Renovator February 17, 2012 at 11:37 am

Todd and Diane, thank you for the beautiful post and video. You always inspire me. Happy anniversary!

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52 Victoria February 17, 2012 at 11:41 am

This is a beautiful story. It warms my heart on a day that I really need it. You’re the best.

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53 Kiran @ KiranTarun.com February 17, 2012 at 12:08 pm

Happy Anniversary!! This post truly would melt anyone’s heart! Love you both, Sierra and Dante (in heavens).

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54 Cassie February 17, 2012 at 12:45 pm

This is beautiful, inspiring, encouraging and so full of love. You guys are awesome and I am blessed to have met you. Thank you for what you do!

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55 Cassie February 17, 2012 at 12:45 pm

Oh yeah, and congratulations on 16 years!

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56 Bunkycooks February 17, 2012 at 12:57 pm

Happy 16 years together and cheers to many, many more!! We will be celebrating 10 years of marriage in April, so we are just babes compared to you two! ;-) Can’t wait to see you in March!

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57 Brandon @ Kitchen Konfidence February 17, 2012 at 1:05 pm

Happy Anniversary! Such a beautiful post. I loved reading all of the suggestions. I am just over four months into a relationship. Things are going very well so far (honeymoon phase). Will definitely keep your words of wisdom in mind as the months and years go by!

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58 Kalyn February 17, 2012 at 2:18 pm

Aw gee, what a great “how we met” story. Wishing you a happy day and many more happy years! xoxo

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59 richard February 17, 2012 at 2:45 pm

just read your 16th.I am proud that you and Diane have found each other and the ldeals that make your lives and endeavers in your personal and professional world work so well. Thanks for being who you are and who you have become.

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60 Tyler Ngo February 17, 2012 at 3:02 pm

Sweet story! Congratulations!

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61 terri February 17, 2012 at 3:18 pm

happy anniversary–thanks for sharing your story with us!

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62 Gosia February 17, 2012 at 8:18 pm

Oh, gorgeously sentimental and unspeakably beautiful tale. Keep it flowing for many years on! Many hugs. Gosia

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63 Helene February 17, 2012 at 8:35 pm

You’re story is so sweet. Happy Anniversary and many more years together!!! xx

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64 Denise February 18, 2012 at 8:36 am

Passing on the words of wisdom to couples and happy days ahead. Congrats for staying true and joyful together! (:

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65 White On Rice Couple via Facebook February 18, 2012 at 8:40 am

Have a great weekend everyone and thank you for all your love. That’s what keeps us going! xoxo

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66 Tora Dress via Facebook February 18, 2012 at 10:11 am

Congratulations and lovely video!

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67 Nisrine February 18, 2012 at 10:57 am

Happy Anniversary! The bouquet is adorable.

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68 Rodney Washington February 18, 2012 at 11:33 am

I throughly enjoyed reading your story and seeing it illustrated so beautifully in video.

Bravo you guys, to another 16 years and many more to follow!

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69 Berto and Kwala February 18, 2012 at 11:54 am

Wow! Truly an inspiring story! I couldn’t help but smile as i read through the post… stay in love you guys, and happy anniversary! =)

Kwala

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70 Cathy Kohatsu via Facebook February 18, 2012 at 12:53 pm

Happy anniversary! I love your moving tribute to life video. Thank you for sharing <3

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71 alexandra @ sweet betweens February 18, 2012 at 2:27 pm

Ok, y’all just made me cry very *happy* tears. At work. Luckily no one’s here to buy any treats otherwise I’d have to stop from sniffling all over their whoopie pies.

Saving this post to re-read in those crummy times, and to share with the husband. So very honest + true + inspiring.

Here’s to very many more happy years ahead!

xo,
alexandra

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72 Gloria February 18, 2012 at 8:48 pm

Congratulations on 16 years! Your words about how you make it happen are a great reminder for all of us in long term relationships. Your story is an inspiration. Here’s to another 16 years! P.S. Your cake pops look great.

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73 Lynda - TasteFood February 19, 2012 at 7:27 am

Congratulations and thank you for your pearls of wisdom. You both are an inspiration in many ways.

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74 Dani Fiori February 19, 2012 at 10:05 am

Beautiful post… beautiful story… beautiful cake pops! Your food styling is soooooo delicious!
Happy Anniversary and All Good Things! Xo

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75 Sally February 19, 2012 at 2:52 pm

Forgive me if I am repeating myself, because I have been thinking of you two and wishing you a happy anniversary, just not sure if I said it out loud! So, happy day! Obviously you are doing something right–all your little tips are lovely, but it starts with two people who just love each other and are committed to not sweating the small stuff! (and sometimes, even the big stuff.) I’ve been married almost twice as long as you guys (to the same man, too!) and I know how much work a good marriage takes. So enjoy your weekend of celebration and may you have many, many more happy years together. xxoo

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76 White on Rice Couple February 19, 2012 at 6:25 pm

Sally- Hi Sally, look forward to seeing you next month in Orlando! xxoxo

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77 Yadsia @ShopCookMake February 20, 2012 at 10:55 am

Congratulations, and may you have many many more years together filled with happiness and health.

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78 Marian (Sweetopia) February 20, 2012 at 4:14 pm

Congratulations and to many more wonderful years for the both of you!
Thank you for the inspiring, dreamy, insightful video… I enjoyed every bit of it.

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79 Sopheavy February 23, 2012 at 4:41 pm

This is so beautiful and inspiring. You both complement and balance each other. :)
Congrats!

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80 Wendy February 23, 2012 at 4:58 pm

lovely post. Todd’s list of things he loves is so incredibly sweet. It’s clear you’re both still crazy about each other. My husband and I have been together since I was 15. I’m 38 this year. It’s so fantastic to still feel the love as much as at the beginning. It’s not a common thing.

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81 Lori @ RecipeGirl February 27, 2012 at 10:59 am

Such a neat post & so cool to see how truly happy you are together… really, you just ooze happiness. 16 years is a great milestone. Congrats :)

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82 Gerry @ Foodness Gracious February 27, 2012 at 12:36 pm

Congrats on another milestone. I met my wife in Dublin and 12 years later I sit here here in California with two amazing children and a great team mate :)
Take care..

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83 Vyvilyn February 14, 2013 at 8:21 am

This is such an inspiring post. Thanks for sharing the throwback picture!

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