On Failure

by on April 13, 2011

iphone image at sunset

It’s one of those months where some things just don’t seem to go right.

What we worked so hard on and thought was going to be right the first time around ended up being the exact opposite. At the end of the day, what would seem as a loss, was actually a gain. Regardless of what goes wrong on a project, everything always ends up as a lesson to do it better or right the second time around.

We’re reminded of this thanks to Susan Jeffers:

” You’re not a failure because you didn’t make it. You’re a success because you tried.” – Susan Jeffers

This was our mantra for the week.


diane and todd

{ 32 comments… read them below or add one }

1 corinne April 13, 2011 at 11:11 pm

very well said ! it’s always good to see life like that :)
Merci and i wish you a very good day !


2 SMITH BITES April 14, 2011 at 4:25 am

ouch. ouch. not that things didn’t turn out as planned but ouch that these kinds of situations happen. but here’s where it gets interesting because as you quoted, ‘success because you tried.’ and that, dear friends, is half the battle, as you well know. what i appreciate even more, is that you share both success and failures with us . . . because that is how WE learn. and to know that when i’m failing, i can remember that good, highly successful friends have these moments too. it helps me to push through and move forward – thank you for that.


3 Snippets of Thyme April 14, 2011 at 6:03 am

I don’t know what happened recently but I do know that I felt like I had found a very successful couple, working hard in an industry that I admire, when I recently came across your blog. Recently, we watched “Kings of Pastry” on Netflix. That was a great documentary chronicling the success and failure of the worlds top pastry chefs.


4 TheKitchenWitch April 14, 2011 at 6:14 am

It just may be the March/April curse or something. I fell flat on my arse a few weeks ago, too. At least you aren’t in the fetal position, still licking your wounds (ahem).

You are both so generous, talented and genuine that I know another success is right around the corner.

ps: Hope to see you when you return to Colorado this year!


5 JulieD April 14, 2011 at 7:55 am

Pick up and try and try again. You’re so right, it’s so hard sometimes because I’m such a perfectionist and failure can be such a disappointment. I do lick my wounds a little and move on. I would rather make an attempt and fail than regret that I never tried at all. Thank you for being you, Diane & Todd. I hope things are better next week! :)


6 Alex April 14, 2011 at 7:58 am

Thank you so much for that post, it could not come at a better time for me… Keep it up!


7 Helene April 14, 2011 at 8:02 am

Brought tears to my eyes. This is so profound. Love you guys xoxo


8 Pete April 14, 2011 at 8:09 am

Thanks for everything guys,sorry for whatever happened. The road gets bumpy sometimes,but we keep going,because it’s such a lovely road. Enjoy


9 TripleScoop April 14, 2011 at 8:11 am

Love the mantra. You guys still rock in book!


10 Susan H April 14, 2011 at 8:21 am

Rocky roads and life lessons sometimes are the pits. This month was NOT a total loss – remember the excitement when you posted about the Williams Sonoma Art Director!!!


11 White on Rice Couple April 14, 2011 at 8:26 am

Susan- we LOVE you. Thank you for that wonderful reminder.


12 Liz the Chef April 14, 2011 at 8:23 am

Shall we start a club? Must be something in the stars and planets ;)


13 megan April 14, 2011 at 8:33 am

Thanks for the reminder, I am in the ‘licking my wounds’ phase of disappointment. A new resolve and a new mantra, could not have come at a better time.


14 Yvette April 14, 2011 at 8:45 am

You will always be a winner in my book! You have accomplished so much! I love the quote — it’s a great reminder to focus on the things we have accomplished and not focus on our letdowns along the way. You are a huge inspiration! ~Yvette


15 Elizabeth @ Saffron Lane April 14, 2011 at 8:48 am

So simply put and so full of truth. I’ve been feeling this way a lot lately, too. The funny part is that when I look back on what (in the moment) seemed like failure, it was actually the catalyst to bring me to something else … something better. Despite our best laid plans and intentions, there are times the universe seems to know best. Wishing you much upcoming success!


16 Donna A. April 14, 2011 at 8:59 am

Vivere Senza Rimpianti!
Live Without Regrets (another mantra in Italian)


17 Karen @offthemeathook April 14, 2011 at 9:15 am

If you guys are “failures”… then what are the REST of us? :) You probably don’t realize how many people admire and look up to you, not only for your endless talents but for your kind, joyful, and generous spirits–that shine through in all of your work.


18 Laura April 14, 2011 at 10:17 am

Thanks for sharing this quote! I’ve come to appreciate this way of thinking more the older I get, but can still use the reminder from time to time.


19 Shanon April 14, 2011 at 12:21 pm

For what it’s worth, you both have made an impact on my life, and I am sure many others that look forward to your posts would agree. I hope that things turn around for you. You’ve got a ton of people rooting for you.


20 Kiran April 14, 2011 at 2:10 pm

Very well said, thanks for sharing positivity and love the iphone shot :)


21 Sarah Hope April 14, 2011 at 5:13 pm

You guys don’t know me but I <3 you both. While I applaud your positive spirit, sometimes I think it's good for the soul to have a moment to commiserate in the difficulties of life with a friend. I hope you find a lovely balance of both. And I also hope you partake of a delicious beverage of choice to celebrate the misery and the closure of moving on from it.



22 Renee April 14, 2011 at 5:23 pm

It is one of those months isn’t it!?! Thank you so much for the beautiful quote and the reminder that all is not lost. You are both an inspiration to us and we hope that everything is well with you. Saw a book title today that really struck a chord and think it is also a good mantra- “Glad No Matter What: Transforming Loss and Change into Gift and Opportunity” by Sark. Sometimes it takes a quote, a song or a book title to set the mind right again. Sending you hugs and thoughts of support!


23 FoodPhotoNYC April 15, 2011 at 6:19 am

Thanks for letting us know that projects that go astray are not the exclusive bailiwick of we beginners who are still struggling to learn and improve. I have found that as we make mistakes we also ensure successes and come to accept falling short of our ideals as a learning experience. The more they happen, the less painful each becomes and the more our knowledge increases.


24 Lan April 15, 2011 at 8:47 am

i’m a very firm believer that Failure is just an excuse to get up & try again.


25 Bianca @ South Bay Rants n Raves April 15, 2011 at 6:34 pm

That’s a good mantra. My March totally sucked so I understand.


26 Alyson April 16, 2011 at 7:25 pm

The only way we really learn is from our disasters… or so I attempt to console myself. =P


27 Phoo-d April 17, 2011 at 9:03 am

Thomas Edison had some great quotes about failure. One of my favorites is “I haven’t failed. I’ve found 10,000 ways that don’t work.”

Sending hugs and happy baby noises your way!


28 Maris (In Good Taste) April 18, 2011 at 1:24 am

Lovely mantra . One that benefits us all


29 Roberta April 19, 2011 at 3:04 am

Thank you for the quote, and the post, so honest and human!
We are here to learn and share, and failure is part of the process… unfortunately our society has made sucess the ultimate goal…and everytime we fall we feel bad about it…
thank you then for your wise words…


30 Ben Gebo April 19, 2011 at 2:06 pm

It’s the sweet and the sour. When we experience bad, negative things, it’s important to know that balance is nature and that the pendulum will eventually swing in a positive direction. Be positive and positivity will spread, even when you hang your head.


31 Dennis April 21, 2011 at 12:14 pm

I like to think that everything that happens in life is for another reason. I’ve had hard times but then they lead to good times and sometimes success. I hope things get better for you!


32 Divina April 22, 2011 at 6:50 am

Thanks for this reminder.. Sometimes I’m afraid to step out of the box because of failure.. but I don’t have to be afraid.


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